When love hurts : a woman's guide to understanding abuse in relationships
Have you been searching for answers to difficult questions about your relationship? Do you feel confused about why your partner seems loving one moment and angry the next? Summoning the courage to ask these challenging questions can seem daunting. You know something is wrong in your relationship, but you are not sure what. If you are beginning to wonder if you are experiencing abuse, this book can offer you support, information, and, most of all, hope as you look for answers. Written by two women with a wealth of experience supporting victims of abuse, When Love Hurts introduces exercises and resources to help you make sense of your relationship, addressing all forms of abuse, including verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, and physical. This practical guidebook is a supportive and nonjudgmental friend to those who don't know where to turn and is filled with stories from women who have been in the same position. By drawing on your own wisdom and that of the many others who have shared your experience, When Love Hurts can help you find the answers you have been looking for.
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- ISBN: 0425274284
- ISBN: 9780425274286
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Physical Description
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xxx, 173 pages : illustrations - Edition New American Library trade paperback edition.
- Publisher New York : New American Library, 2016.
Content descriptions
| General Note: | Revised edition originally published: New Westminster, British Columbia : WomanKindPress, 2008. |
| Bibliography, etc. Note: | Includes bibliographical references. |
| Immediate Source of Acquisition Note: | LSC 21.45 |
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Table of Contents
When Love Hurts : A Woman's Guide to Understanding Abuse in Relationships
| Section | Section Description | Page Number |
|---|---|---|
| About the Authors | p. ix | |
| Acknowledgments | p. xi | |
| Foreword Lundy Bancroft | p. xiii | |
| Why We Wrote This Book | p. xvii | |
| Introduction | p. xxi | |
| Allison's Story | p. xxv | |
| 1 | Am I Experiencing Abuse? | p. 1 |
| Am I an "Abused Woman"? | ||
| What's Wrong in My Relationship? | ||
| Why Was I Attracted to Him? | ||
| How Did I Get Here? | ||
| What Can I Do? | ||
| 2 | What Is the Cycle of Abuse? | p. 11 |
| Is There a Pattern? | ||
| When Is a Honeymoon Not a Honeymoon? | ||
| Who Is in Control of the Cycle? | ||
| Is the Cycle the Same for Everyone? | ||
| 3 | How Do I Experience the Cycle of Abuse? | p. 27 |
| Why Do I Feel So Confused? | ||
| Why Does the Honeymoon Phase Make | ||
| Me Feel Crazy? | ||
| Why Do I Feel Like I'm Walking on Eggshells? | ||
| Why Is the Explosion So Awful? | ||
| What Is My Experience of the Cycle? | ||
| 4 | What Are the Different Types of Abuse? | p. 40 |
| How Do I Experience Abuse? | ||
| What Is the Power and Control Wheel? | ||
| What Are the Types of Abuse? | ||
| What Is His Motive? | ||
| How Can I Make a Power and Control | ||
| Wheel for Myself? | ||
| How Might I Feel After Completing My Power and Control Wheel? | ||
| 5 | What's the Abuse Doing to Me? | p. 59 |
| How Serious is the Abuse? | ||
| What Is the Impact of the Abuse? | ||
| Am I Being Brainwashed? | ||
| Will I Always Feel This Bad? | ||
| 6 | Am I Responsible for the Abuse? | p. 73 |
| Am I to Blame? | ||
| Is There Another Way to Look at My Behavior? | ||
| So Who Is Responsible? | ||
| 7 | Why Is My Partner Abusive? | p. 86 |
| Why Is My Partner Like This? | ||
| What Belief System is Held by Abusive Men? | ||
| Why Doesn't He Treat Me with Respect? | ||
| Is It Possible for Abusive Men to Change? | ||
| What Can I Expect of My Partner? | ||
| 8 | What's This Doing to My Kids? | p. 106 |
| How Is My Partner's Abuse Impacting My Children? | ||
| How Has My Partner's Abuse Impacted My Ability to Mother? | ||
| Why Do My Children "Side" with Their Father? | ||
| How Can I Talk to My Children About This? | ||
| Will My Children Grow Up to Abuse or Be Abused? | ||
| How Do 1 Get Support as a Mother? | ||
| Staying or Leaving? What's Best for My Children? | ||
| 9 | Am I Getting the Support I Need? | p. 124 |
| How Do I Know If I'm Getting the Right Support? | ||
| What Are the Barriers to My Getting Support? | ||
| Why Is It So Hard to Get Good Support? | ||
| How Do I Find Good Support? | ||
| How Can I Plan Ahead? | ||
| 10 | Should I Leave My Partner? | p. 142 |
| Staying or Leaving? | ||
| Why Is It So Hard Even to Think About Leaving? | ||
| Should I Stay While My Partner Is in Counseling? | ||
| Why Is My Partner Still Abusive Even Though I Left Him? | ||
| Will Leaving Affect My Children's Relationship with Their Father? | ||
| Am I Ready to Be a Single Parent? | ||
| What If I Don't Want My Children to See Their Father? | ||
| 11 | How Do I Heal from the Abuse? | p. 155 |
| Why Does This Hurt So Much? | ||
| Is Grieving Part of the Healing Process? | ||
| Why Is It Hard to Grieve? | ||
| I Haven't Left My Partner, So Why Do f Feel like I'm Grieving? | ||
| Why Do I Have Such Mixed Emotions About the End of My Relationship? | ||
| Why Am I So Angry? | ||
| Is There Something Wrong with Me? | ||
| Why Does the End of a "Bad" Relationship Still Hurt So Much? | ||
| Is It Always Going to Be This Painful? | ||
| Can I Look Forward with Hope? | ||
| Afterword | p. 175 | |
| The Authors | p. 177 |
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